They say marriages are made in heaven. Then relationships might also be the fruit of destiny, isn’t it? As a wingman a person does the warm job of helping in getting two people into a relationship or dating. But being a wingman can be very tricky because you could be the cause of making or breaking the connection between the girl and boy. In case anything goes wrong then you would be caught up in the mess and you might be blamed for introducing your undeserving friend to the other person of opposite sex. Here are a few essential tips to play a great wingman.
Advise your friend against an incompatible match
Being a wingman is a responsible task and it’s your duty to make best possible efforts to bring the two people close while helping in breaking the ice. But sometimes in a bar it may happen that your friend chooses a target match who might be way better than your friend. The target person might be more attractive, sophisticated and haughty. So try to make your friend understand in a polite manner that your success as wingman would be doubtful. You should make sure not to hurt the self esteem of anyone.
Don’t charm your friend’s target unknowingly
When you approach the target for your friend then your decorum is very important. The target will form an image of your friend by the company he keeps i.e. you. You should be prepared for scrutiny. Be warm in your approach but you must make sure that you don’t wink, smile naughtily or drop a hint unknowingly. Being faithful to your friend is the essential trait of a good wingman. Even if your friend’s proposal gets rejected and the target shows interest in you, then better avoid it. That’s the moral duty of a true wingman to be trustworthy.
Create natural looking situations for interaction
If the things will be too much made up then they will look crafty. To avoid that, a creative and sensible wingman should create comfortable and easy situations for his friend and the potential partner to meet. It could be done by carefully approaching the target and checking if she isn’t surrounded by her parents or boyfriend. Then you could introduce yourself and invite her to chat up in your lounge area in the bar while introducing your friend to her.
If she is in a circle in which a few girls are giving attention to you, then you can use that to your friend’s advantage. You can bring along your friend and start conversation with other girls while casually introducing your friend to the target. This may lighten up the situation. Tactics and presence of mind are the qualities that as a wingman you should use.
As a wingman your responsibility is both for your friend as well the potential partner for your friend whom you approach. Your skills, nature, behavior, kindness etc are very essential to break the ice between two people who are strangers to one another. Therefore saying the right thing in the correct situation to the correct person is extremely essential.